Sometimes, it feels like life is just a struggle to prove something or to impress someone. Think about it. We dress up, work hard, put on a smile, play hard, try to better ourselves and it’s not for no reason that we put in so much effort.
There is always someone to impress or to make an impression on. God, your parents, your boss, your friends, that pretty girl you have a crush on, and even those strangers on the bus that you may never ever talk to in your life.
Sometimes, it doesn’t even matter if the impression you make is good or bad. This is probably because the only thing that is worse than being remembered badly by someone is to not be remembered at all. At the end of the day, that’s what it boils down to.
The reason we try to impress someone is because we want something from them. It doesn’t really matter what it is, whether you want sex, a promotion, recognition, fame, power, or acceptance – it comes down to a need to be acknowledged and to feel some worth.
Modern society reflects this need. This is what our economies are built on, the need to prove that we’re good enough. Make-up, clothes, music, even the food we eat and the wine we drink all serve to boost our sense of ego and self. Facebook, twitter, blogs (yes, even this one) and all other forms of social media have proven so successful because they’ve captured this essence, this need to be heard, recognised and accepted.
What are we trying to prove? What are scared of? I suppose all this struggling is to prove that I’m good enough. Prove that I’m good enough to exist, prove that I’m good enough to be loved, prove that my existence means something. I think that maybe, this is what the search for love really is.
Finding that one person who will cherish you no matter the circumstances and who will accept you as a big and important part of their lives. That special person that supports you no matter what choices you make, who feels that you’re as important to them as they are to you. Love is that mutual recognition and appreciation of two people’s special worth and value to each other. If you find that then count your blessings.
You can talk about independence or living for yourself and loving yourself all you want, but I think there’s a need that is impossible to satisfy by yourself. Even the most famous star with a million Facebook friends will feel alone coming back to an empty house at the end of the day.
I don’t know, you may agree or disagree with what I say. I don’t think that our need to prove ourselves is right or wrong. It’s just the way things are. For me personally, it helps me to understand what my motivations are and what’s important to me. It helps to remind me that even a little encouragement or praise of what someone means to me can go a long way. If you agree or not, it still has meaning for you. I wonder what that is? I’d love to know. J